Reflexion - Karma Doesn’t Rush, It Watches

By Yvonne Junor

Karma doesn’t rush it, it quietly watches. It lets people believe they have won, that their actions had no consequences. When the moment is right, it responds with perfect timing. It does this without warning , no drama, only the outcome they deserved, the consequences of their actions. They are taught ‘life lessons’.

Most of us will struggle with injustice and seemingly people getting away without consequences. Nobody escapes the consequences of their actions whether positive or negative actions. Sometimes the consequences may not be ever known, however whether it is on this side of the veil or the other, they will face their consequences and karma whatever the time frame.

Reflexion - Living A Life That Matters

By Yvonne Junor

What we value impacts our well-being. Our values can be divided into extrinsic and intrinsic. Extrinsic values are external, like wanting the big house, an expensive car, the high status career or a certain image. Intrinsic values include wanting to be good to the environment, being pro-social, wanting spiritual growth or being a good neighbour.

So the more time you spend pursuing extrinsic values, the less time you have in your life for pursuing intrinsic values. This matters because over emphasis on extrinsic values are linked with negative mental health and substance abuse disorder. However, intrinsic values are linked with the well-being we want. Extrinsic values are activated on social media and other forms of media, we hear these messages day in day our in our capitalistic culture telling us that you need these things to matter.

People who live and organise their lives with intrinsic values they are more likely living a life that matters. They feel valued by people and knowing they add meangful value back.

Reflexion - Is Your Life Destiny Or Free Will?

By Yvonne Junor

REFLEXION - This topic is an on-going debate, while destiny suggests an external force (God, Karma) sets a destined force. Free will implies personal agency in setting one’s path. If you believe your soul planned this life before you wore born, do you have free will? Your soul contract, what you have agreed to do and learn and become is not random. The family that you are born into, the circumstances around you, the themes that keep repeating, those are designed to guide you to your purpose. There isn’t a lot of free will around what your soul came here to accoplish.

The free will isn’t about how consciously you choose to follow your path. You can listen to your soul’s nudges, or you can ignore them? However, when you ignore them that’s when life steps in. You may experience painful things like a job loss, unexpected pregnancy, health issues, relationship break ups or an accident. These events are not ‘karmic’ punishments, but rather ‘redirections’. Your soul is always moving towards its destiny and the Universe is always trying to guide you there. Free will doesn’t mean choosing a new destiny, it means whether you meet it with awareness or resistance?

Your life doesn’t happen to you, it is unfolding for you. So, the question isn’t if you will meet your destiny, it’s whether you will walk there consciously, or let life drag you there.

My Realisations

I have always pondered this concept, this explanation reflects my beliefs and life experience. We choose our circumstances, the lessons we need to learn and grow. The ‘earth’ school can be difficult and challenging, yet also joyous and fulfilling. We continue to meet crossroads in various stages of our lives, ultimately it is our decision how we live our ‘dharma’(our life’s purpose). Each of us can only be accountable for our actions and conscience in the space of our lives where we have free will.

Reflexion - What Builds A Harmonious Partnership

By Yvonne Junor

REFLEXION - Do you reflect what makes a harmonious partnership? We often think it is chemistry, love or passion that builds a successful partnership. However, there may be other factors at play that contribute to making it a happy partnership.

Here are are some factors which can positively infuence the dynamics of a harmonious partnership.

1 Love, passion and compatability of personalities on its own doesn’t determine the success of the partnership.

2 The quality of the everyday relationship plays a more significant role.

3 It is the ability of the partner to be there in a hard time. The feeling of “I’m always on your side”.

4 It is saying “thank-you” for the little things, not taking your partner for granted.

5 While arguements are inevitable, couples are able to reconnect quickly without unnecessary drama or hurt.

6 Kindness is very important, it doesn’t have to be grand gestures, but it is the small daily acts of care, praise, interest and gratitude that are the foundation of a true partnership.

7 There needs to be flexibility and a willingness to change. Life changes and family roles need to adapt to these changes.

8 Being emotionally available, couples need to be able to freely express their feelings and listen without judgement.

9 A harmonious partnership isn’t just love as a feeling, but how you nurture that every day.

10 The biggest mistake people make in partnerships is thinking love is enough and stop putting in the effort.

11 If you have a special person in your life, cherish them everyday with a hug, smile or kind word.

12 In all our partnerships a loving relationship doesn’t just happen, it is built on a foundation of acts of kindness every day.

My Realisations

Having an understanding of these traits in our partnerships can make a huge different to their success and fulfillment.

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Reflexion - Creating Luck

By Yvonne Junor

What comes to mind when you think about ‘luck’? Do you agree with the explanation ‘it is the good and bad that happens to a person as if by chance’. I have in the past felt as though luck was both random and controlled by chance that I had little control over. In recent times, psychologists such as Price Pritchett (who has studied human behaviour for decades) has given his own definition of luck. His approach is to transform the perception of luck from a passive mystical concept to an active managable, a quirky phenomenon and highly practical strategy that can be engineered through mindset and action.

Here is a list of qualities that can help create luck in your life!

1 Most of your lucky breaks will come via someone you know. This can be with people we know very well or others that are less significant contacts. While the stronger contacts in our lives can give us opportunities, sometimes the less significant contacts can provide new and refreshing opportunities. You need to stay in circulation “get out, meet new people and be visible to create new opportunities. Luck favour those who are visible versus those who hide away.

2 Use your logic but also heed your intuition to assist in decision making and recognising lucky breaks. Be open to serendipity and unseen forces, they are there to help you.

3 Have an optimistic nature, this gives resilience and strength through challenges. ction Think and speak in positive terms, this alters your interaction with the world and attracts better outcomes.'An optimistic attitude helps you recognise potential ‘lucky breaks’ that other people might miss.

4 Give yourself a meditative experience everyday, taking a walk, giving your brain a break from problem solving. This gives space for your mind to speak to you. This allows things to come from your unconscious.

5 Have a generous spirit and extend your luck to others. Whatever label you put on it, ‘karma’, ‘reciprocity’, ‘what goes around comes around’. We will be compensated for how we help others. Being of service and giving is uplifting to you.

6 Accountability, take ownership of your life, be the victor, not the victim and take a problem solving attitude. Feeling sorry for yourself or helpless is a habit that can create bad luck.

7 Fortune favours the bold, be prepared to take calculated risks to make the most of opportunities.

8 Have an open and flexible mindset, luck may present itself in unexpected ways as a surprise or detour, so be open to new possibilites.

9 Embrace failure, it is a necessary part of the path to success. Maintain an optimistic attitude when facing adversity.

10 Work ‘smarter’ not ‘harder’, using brute force can be counter productive.

11 Write down and visualise your goals, to keep them at the forefront of your mind, this activates your subconscious, keeping you open to opportunities.

12 Always give value first without expecting an immediate return or favour.

My Realisations

This list reflects some factors that contribute to luck, does this resonate with you?

Reflexion -Powerful Life Mastery

By Yvonne Junor

Have you ever reflected on what are some of the most challenging ‘life skills’ to master? These skills are what I describe as ‘work in progress’ it is about aspiring for consistency rather than perfection.

1 Discipline: keeping promises to others and yourself reinforces your integrity and confidence.

2 Intuition: ignoring your intuitive hunches can cost you dearly.

3 Accountability: taking responsibility for your actions is truly empowering.

4 Clarity: time spent in solitude is critical to maintaining a clear mind and spirit.

5 Peace of mind: this is the greatest ‘wealth’ we can possess.

6 Controlling outcomes: focus only on what is within your control.

7 Inner confidence: this radiates a very attractive quality.

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Reflexion -Three Habits To Transform Your Life

By Yvonne Junor

If you desire to live your best life, here are three daily habits that will transform your life. Firstly, our bodies are designed for movement not stagnation. So, whatever, your favourite physical activity is, make it a part of your daily routine. If you desire optimal health, mental clarity and peak performance physical activity is non negotiable.

Secondly, your mental health, read something every day that challenges your thinking. Use a journal to process your thoughts, it can help you set goals and see what patterns emerge. Learn a skill that compounds your value. Find pursuits that sharpen your intellect.

Third, your spiritual practises, train your soul daily whether it is breathwork, meditation, spending time in nature, express gratitude. Essentially do whatever is authentic and reconnects you to your soul.

To achieve sustainable transformation, you need to optimize body, mind and spirit, because they are interconnected. If you neglect one then the others suffer, if you master all three then you are powerful. Some people chase success to the point of physical exhaustion, numb their minds and are completely disconnected from their true selves. This brings them to a place of emptiness.

The focus is on consistency and showing up, not perfection.

My Realisations

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Reflexion - The Age Of Wisdom

By Yvonne Junor

Being 65 years old this brings me into the ‘retiring’ stage of my life. It brings a range of reactions, some people find the prospect of retiring quite confronting. There may be a sense of a loss of identity or other concerns.

Jane Fonda (88) defines her ‘final act’ (beginning at age 60) as ‘a conscious intentional effort to live without regret, focusing on forgiveness, self-acceptance, and staying active despite past health battles’. She aims to avoid the regrets she witnessed with her father Henry Fonda, by embracing bravery and nurturing relationships. I commend the philosophy she espouses about living in this ‘final act’ of her life, we can all learn from this. She lives ‘intentionally’ with purpose, actively working to forgive herself and others to avoid dying with regrets, maintaining a healthy lifestyle is her highest priority and discovers her own inner strength and courage. I applaud this outlook on life and try my best to emulate these excellent examples of aging well.

I have found my retirement to be some of the most fulfilling years of my life. I acknowledge the many blessings I have that contribute to this, however, there have been many deliberate decisions I have made to make this a fulfilling time. Most importantly, my health and relationships come first. In my sixties, I have retrained into a different career, maintain a beautiful garden, travelled, written my memoir, started my own business, seek guidance from a business mentor and love rides on my electric bike. Life is growing and ever expanding.

Keep dreaming and fulfilling your dreams, even in your later stages of life, keep an open mind set about your life choices. Being older doesn’t necessarily mean your life is shrinking. We can still have ambition to search and fulfill the meaning of our lives whatever the stage we are at.

Reflexion - What Makes A Person Magnetic

By Yvonne Junor

Have you come across people who you feel have a certain energy or magnetism about them. Sometimes it is hard to put your finger on what gives them that aura. It’s a quality that comes across as authentic and genuine, not fake or from trying too hard. Magnetic people don’t chase approval, they create emotional safety, They make people feel seen, heard, valued and people feel drawn to them without knowing why.

Here are seven behaviours of magnetic people, which is backed by emotional intelligence and neuroscience.

1, Warm eye contact, triggers oxytocin, the bonding chemical, this signals safety to the nervous system. People will relax and feel emotionally safe.

2. Using people’s names, this activates the medial prefrontal cortex, the part of the brain that relates to identity recognition builds connection.

3. Microaffirmations, giving soft smiles, or nods. This activates mirror neurons and creates emotional alignment and creates rapport.

4. Being positive, when you show someone you like them first this is reciprocity, their brain mirrors it back. People are drawn to those who make them feel valued.

5. Calm expressiveness, magnetic people aren’t loud, with relaxed hands, open posture and warm tone. This regulates the other person’s nervous system and makes you feel trustworthy.

6. Shared identity cues, using phrases like “I felt like that too” activates in-group bias. Familiarity builds comfort and trust.

7. Curiosity over ego, asking thoughtful questions and actually listening intently is the biggest magnetic superpower. This triggers dopamine in the brain and associates you wth a reward.

Reflexion - The Journey Of Healing

By Yvonne Junor

When we go through difficult times in our lives we can put on ‘positive’ face to the world to hide our deepest pain. This is of course one way of dealing with our struggles, there are times when it is appropriate to not reveal our deepest pain and other times it is appropriate to share our struggles.

Their can be a misconception if you always has a positive attitude and are not miserable. It can be wrongly assumed that you haven’t gone through any hardships. The real truth is that healing doesn’t mean that you never had pain. It means that you chose not to let the pain make you bitter.

You chose to grow instead of stay stuck, you kept smiling, showing up for yourself and kept moving forward even when life was crushing down on you. Their were quiet moments when you felt like giving up. What is seen now is the ‘light’, this ‘light’ was built in the ‘dark’. The ‘joy’ in your life was formed in your struggle. Your ‘strength’ grew in the storms you endured.

So, on your journey of healing, remember being positive doesn’t detract from the fact your life has had its challenges. It means you didn’t let the the hardships define you and that is your real ‘power’.

REFLEXION - The journey of healing is not linear, with positive and negative traits intertwining, however we can gain strength through the process.

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Reflexion - Be Authentically You

By Yvonne Junor

Reflection

“To thine own self be true”

This is a famous line from Shakespeare’s play Hamlet. The maxim here is being honest to yourself. It’s a call for moral consistency, if you align yourself with your inner truth you will be perceived as a trustworthy person. This is an ideal practice of self awareness to uphold even during difficult times.

Authenticity is a word which is bandied around a lot. Being authentic is one of the highest vibrations. To live an authentic life, means that you have your own sense of self-worth and you are not chasing validation. It enables you to move on from places that drain you even if they good from the outside. However, it should be emphasised authenticity comes with compassion, emotional intelligence and discernment.

It means you give yourself permission not to conform to roles, routines or relationships that don’t align with who you actually are. Authenticty gives you confidence because you are grounded in self trust. In given situations you will ask yourself ‘does this feel true to me?’ instead of ‘will they approve of me?’. This mindset shift changes from deep within your soul. Your nervous system settles, your decisions get clearer. Your energy improves because it isn’t being wasted on proving, pretending or performing.

Living in authenticity assists in attracting what is aligned for you, rather than what or who you are trying to impress and will guide you to the right people, direction and opportunities. To reconnect to your authentic self, strip everything away for a moment, ‘who are you when nobody is watching?’ What are your values, how do you naturally think and respond? That first honest instinct is self awareness. As you follow this, you will live the life meant for you!

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Reflexion - Karmic Lessons I Have Learned

By Yvonne Junor

REFLEXION - Karma, the law of cause and effect, (what you give is what you get), not immediately, not dramatically, but inevitably energy never gets lost - it returns. If you keep experiencing the same repeating patterns, then perhaps you need to reflect on these lessons. Karma is precise, it gives you exactly what your actions deserve, nothing less, nothing more. It is something that has always interested me throughout my life I have read and observed its impact on peoples lives. Here is a list of karmic lessons I have learned.

1 There can be a misconception about karma thinking about it in terms of revenge, sometimes it acts as a mirror, it never lies. Every thought, action and intention you plant today becomes the life you live tomorrow.

2 The law of spectators, you don’t manifest by wishing, you achieve manifestation by participation.

3 The law of humility, be honest and don’t lie to yourself and allow growth to happen.

4 The law of growth, don’t try to fix people, rather change yourself and watch your world respond differently.

5 The law of responsibility, your life is your responsibility, blames delays growth, while ownership accelerates it.

6 The law of connection, nothing happens randomly, your past, habits and choices they’re all connected.

7 The law of focus, be intentional on choosing what deserves your attention.

8 The law of giving and integrity, what you say means nothing if your actions and words are contradictory. True character is being consistent.

9 The law of here and now, the past brings regret, the future brings anxiety, power lives only in the present.

10 The law of change, life will keep repeating the lesson until you learn it.

11 The law of patience and reward, genuine success is slow, anything rushed will rarely suceed. So patience is a virtue.

12 The law of significance and inspiration, your smallest actions matter, you are always influencing someone, even when you don’t notice. Never underestimate the intention of your action and energy and how it flows.

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Reflexion - Wishes For The New Year

By Yvonne Junor

The beginning of a new year heralds us sending wishes of happiness and blessings to our friends and family. Their are many beliefs, traditions, superstitions associated with the dawning of the New Year. It can be a time of reflection, asking yourself how you felt about the year just gone, what do you want in the coming year.

Where do you see your life in one years time?

“Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results” Albert Einstein.

So, your future self is is your current self. The thoughts and actions you take now will determine who you will be in a years time. If you would like to be a happier version of yourself twelve months henceforth, here are some New Year wishes worth considering.

1 I wish for the courage this New Year to finally let go of what hasn’t worked for a long time. We know when it’s time to step away, whether it is a relationship that has faded away or a job that drains you. Give yourself permission to change and freedom to move on.

2 I hope this year you allow yourself what you have been denying yourself your whole life. To rest without guilt, to spend money on yourself, to say no, to leave without explanation.

3 I wish for quality people in your life, who offer honesty and genuine support. Let only those who matter stay.

4 May this year teach you not to sacrifice yourself to those who don’t value you.

5 May this year give you the courage to live your life authentically, being true to yourself. Do not live by other’s scripts or false expectations. You wish for freedom, for the right to live the way you want.

6 I wish to live this year so that in twelve months time I can look back in satisfaction and contentment in the life I have lived rather than just existing.

REFLEXION - My Realisations

Reflecting on this list gave me a profound sense of reflection and focus on what I want in the coming year and a determination to make the changes so I make it a year that matters.

Reflexion - Letting Go Allows For Growth

By Yvonne Junor

As we come to the end of a year, it can be a time when we can pause from the ‘busyness’ of our lives and ‘reflect’.

How we reflect and feel about the last year can shape and determine what the following year will be like. Not everything is meant to go with you into the new year. Letting go is one of the hardest spiritual lessons. Some relationships, mindsets, habits and even versions of yourself have served their purpose. These situations may have once made you feel ‘safe’. But letting go is not loss, rather it is creating space for new opportunities. It becomes a chance to release what you are not in alignment with.

It creates space for new opportunities and better connections. When you hold too tightly, you block the flow of what is trying to reach you. Trust when something falls away, something better is trying to find its way to you.

So, allow the new year to be a ‘doorway’ , step through it with clearer intention, lighter energy and the courage to trust the unknown. Honour how far you have come and allow space for what is to come next!

REFLEXION - My Realisations, there is incredible power in surrender.

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Reflexion - Perception Versus Perspective

By Yvonne Junor

Reflection

We all look at the world through our own perception. But perception is your interpretation of the world around you, but it is unique only to you.

Perception on its own does not give you any advantage. Some people may enter into arguements with other people trying to convince others of their own perception. The most valuable tool into getting ahead, convincing others of your opinion or winning an arguement is to focus on perspective not solely on your perception.

When you move from your perspective into perception, this places you in the strongest position. Perspective is the act or art of observing the world from outside of yourself. This could be by observing from a third persons point of view. Another more powerful way is to sit in the shoes or seat of the person opposite to you.

This gives you a chance to reflect on some pertinent questions. What is there life like right now? What do they feel right now? What emotions are they experiencing? Do they feel uncomfortable, scared, are they experiencing particular stressors?

When you shift places out of your own perception and into someone else’s perspective, now you are thinking like them. This gives an advantage of better information, stronger positioning. You have an advantage that they don’t have. This can be applied to all areas and relationships in your life! Try this and see some amazing changes happen!

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Reflection

One of the best skills we can learn is regulating our emotions. How can we stay in a good mood despite there being many reasons to stay in a bad mood! Because joy isn’t just a vibe but a decision.

Sometimes we may think we just have to accept how we are feeling. Joy can be an anchor, in times of stress or distraction we can forget to see ‘the silver lining’. This isn’t about ignoring problems, it’s about not letting them control you. You will notice the chaos but not let it overtake. When something goes wrong, yet let that be a moment, not your whole day,

Life starts to feel lighter, because instead of having a ‘bad day’ , you are having a ‘bad moment’ in an otherwise good day. So, when you are experiencing a bad moment, don’t let it overwhelm you, it’s a moment that will pass and choose the joy in your day!

Reflexion - Life Lessons I have Learned

By Yvonne Junor

REFLEXION - In our youth there is a lot we don’t understand about life. As we enter our senior years, we have a coming of age and wisdom. Here is a collections I have learned along the journey of my life.

1 Stop worrying about the past, its gone, you can’t do anything about it. The past can’t hurt you unless you keep reliving it.
You can only learn from the past, but stop letting it define who you are now.

2 Worrying about the future is futile, because it is unknown, you can prepare and plan but worrying just steals your peace.

3 Live right now, in this moment, because that is where your power is.

4 Work on your own self development, don’t seek other people to make you happy. People can compliment your life but they can’t complete it. Learn to like yourself.

5 Don’t underestimate your inner strength, don’t act like you are not enough, not strong enough, you’ve already survived things you didn’t think you could. Give yourself some credit, that strength is still in you right now. But when you need help let people help you, you don’t have to prove how strong you are by doing everything yourself.

6 Stop comparing yourself to others, because this can kill your confidence. We are all on our own pathways, focus on your unique qualities and strengths, rather than focusing on your flaws.

7 You are never too old to learn something new, be curious, start small, even if you feel scared. 




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We have a finite time on earth, it is imperative we use our time and energy in a positive and constructive way.

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Reflexion - Spiritual Development

By Yvonne Junor

REFLEXION - With age comes life experience and wisdom. Here I outline some of the truths I have learnt that have helped me understand my spiritual development.

1 Being a kind and nice person doesn’t mean I am naive. I observe red flags in others and I won’t lower my standards for anyone else’s comfort.

2 I speak with authenticity, in the past I may have held back my truth because I didn’t want to hurt other people’s feelings and I wanted to keep the peace. I wanted to be liked and didn’t want to risk losing this. I now speak my truth with love and compassion, but I don’t hold back from expressing anything that makes me feel uncomfortable.

3 I am always open to learning more, the more I learn the more I realise that learning is an on-going life journey. I also share information with others that will give help, insight and inspiration on their journeys.

4 Protecting my peace is my highest priority. This is called ‘boundaries’. My energy is finite and I am not going to give it to just anyone. I will not put myself in situations where I do not feel comfortable or valued.

5 My soul’s alignment is my highest priority in contrast to seeking approval. If my soul doesn’t feel pulled to it, then I won’t force anything. I fully trust my intuition that if my body picks up on it first then I don’t allow my rational mind to overule it. This is because if I am not in alignment I am not going to force anything. I have learned to be in a place of flow and surrender and allowing things to unfold.



My Realisations

I think it is important to recognise the balance between being true to youtself, in alignment with your soul, yet expressing this with love, compassion and discernment in all the relationships we have.

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Reflexion - Discernment In Emotional Intelligence

By Yvonne Junor

One of the truest signs of emotional intelligence is ‘discernment’.

Discernment isn’t judgement, it’s feeling when something is off, you can love, support and understand someone but your body tells you, this isn’t mine to carry. It is an energy filter, it keeps you clear, honest, it keeps you from over giving when your soul needs some space.

You may understand exactly why someone does what they do. You see their patterns, their pain, their past, you can connect all the dots and see the bigger picture. Emotional intelligence isn’t just about understanding people’s behaviour. It’s about when to stop making excuses for them. Just because you can empathise with someone doesn’t mean you have to tolerate unacceptable behaviour.

You can have compassion with boundaries. You can care about someone’s struggle and support them without it becoming your responsibility. there is a subtle difference between supporting someone and saving them. It’s recognising when empathy turns into an enablement.

Emotional intelligence doesn’t mean you absorb everyone’s chaos. This is a time to stay calm, and differentiate what’s yours to own and their’s to heal.

But you don’t allow your empathy to override your self respect and personal boundaries. True emotional intelligence doesn’t excuse hurtful behaviour. It allows you to see a persons complexities while seeing the bigger picture and supporting them wih compassion and authentcity..

You can give empathy, kindness, compassion without being emotionally available to everyone and suffering burnout. Above all, you don’t owe everyone access to your energy, you owe yourself the peace that comes from honouring it, because you can go forward with strength and self-respect.

True emotional intelligence with discernment allows you to give empathy without compromising your personal boundaries.

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Reflexion - Signs You Are On The Right Path

By Yvonne Junor

REFLEXION - I have found with age and wisdom, I am much more confident knowing when I am following the right path in my life. In my younger years, I was more anxious and uncertain about deciding the course of my life. However, life experiences, relationships and the accumulation of wisdom has given me a ‘sense of peace’ when I am following my highest purpose.

Here are some signs that indicate you are on the right path in your life.

1. You have a sense of peace, this is the clearest sign of alignment. Even if the path seems uncertain, your nervous system knows where you are meant to be. Peace may arrive quietly and steadily, in the soft moments of reflection.

2. You have a sense of being your authentic self.

3. You trust yourself more and don’t seek outside validation.

4. The next step often flows naturally.

5. The anticipation of what lies ahead energises and excites you.

6. Being authentic is of higher importance than likes.

7. Even if it feels uncomfortable, you know you are growing.

8. You feel a sense of purpose and aligned with somehting higher than you.

My Realisations

Reflecting on this list gave me a greater sense of peace about the choices I have made in my life and confidence in the direction my life was heading in.