Reflexion - Emotional Intelligence
Reflexion - Discernment In Emotional Intelligence
One of the truest signs of emotional intelligence is ‘discernment’.
Discernment isn’t judgement, it’s feeling when something is off, you can love, support and understand someone but your body tells you, this isn’t mine to carry. It is an energy filter, it keeps you clear, honest, it keeps you from over giving when your soul needs some space.
You may understand exactly why someone does what they do. You see their patterns, their pain, their past, you can connect all the dots and see the bigger picture. Emotional intelligence isn’t just about understanding people’s behaviour. It’s about when to stop making excuses for them. Just because you can empathise with someone doesn’t mean you have to tolerate unacceptable behaviour.
You can have compassion with boundaries. You can care about someone’s struggle and support them without it becoming your responsibility. there is a subtle difference between supporting someone and saving them. It’s recognising when empathy turns into an enablement.
Emotional intelligence doesn’t mean you absorb everyone’s chaos. This is a time to stay calm, and differentiate what’s yours to own and their’s to heal.
But you don’t allow your empathy to override your self respect and personal boundaries. True emotional intelligence doesn’t excuse hurtful behaviour. It allows you to see a persons complexities while seeing the bigger picture and supporting them wih compassion and authentcity..
You can give empathy, kindness, compassion without being emotionally available to everyone and suffering burnout. Above all, you don’t owe everyone access to your energy, you owe yourself the peace that comes from honouring it, because you can go forward with strength and self-respect.
True emotional intelligence with discernment allows you to give empathy without compromising your personal boundaries.
Reflection
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By Yvonne Junor 🌈 Creative Well-Being Facilitator, Author 'Finding My Rainbow'
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